Friday, December 5, 2014

You Can't Force Someone to Like You

Have you ever wanted to be around someone who didn't want to be
around you? Many times you know why that person wants to keep
their distance from you, but that's not always the case. If you don't
know why this situation is occurring, just make sure you don't try
to force your presence on that person.

You can't force someone to like you, so don't even try. If someone wants
to be around you, he/she will find a way to communicate with you. Many
times you're better off not being around someone who doesn't want
to be around you.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

10 Ways to Feel Happier

If you want to be happy you've got to take some steps to improve your life.
Sometimes you may be taking actions that are hurting you and you may not
even realize it. When you get done reading the list, promise yourself that
you'll try to incorporate as many items from the list as you can each day.

1. Don't let people take advantage of you.
    People will take advantage of you as long as you let them. People like
    this only take, take, take.

2. Stay away from negative people.
    Negative people won't lift you up they'll only let you down. Find posi-
    tive individuals to hang around. Seek out people that make the world a
    better place.

3. Don't let shyness stop you from having fun.
    How many times have you wanted to do something or say something
    and you didn't because of your shyness? You could've talked to more
    people. You could've danced with that guy you had your eye on. You
    could've walked into that business, handed someone your resume and
    be working at your dream job.

4. Don't worry all the time.
    Worry all the time and it's a guarantee you won't be happy. It's hard
     to enjoy anything if you worry about everything.

5. Write down every compliment that you receive. 
     First of all, when someone gives you a compliment say, "Thank you."
     Don't try to dodge the compliment even if you feel like you don't
     deserve it. Second, writing your compliments down can help to lift
     you up on days that you feel a little down.

6. Ignore negative comments.
    There are just some people in this world who seem to have nothing
    good to say. People like this are so unhappy that they can't stand to
    see other people happy. You've just got to ignore them, and try your
    best to stay away from them.

7. Focus on your strengths.
    You have some positive attributes, so focus on those qualities. No
    one can do everything and no one has everything.

8. Write down what you do like about yourself.
    When you write down what you like about yourself it's easy to see
     the good, and you focus less on the things that you may not like.

9. Quit comparing yourself to others.
    Try to be the best person you can be.

10. Don't bad-mouth anyone.
      You don't want to be known as someone that is always saying aw-
      ful things about people.That makes you look bad and it could come
      back to haunt you. 

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Stupid Pants

The other day a co-worker of mine got angry with me because I gave someone
a pair of pants that she wanted. I didn't give the pants away for meanness, I
simply didn't know that my co-worker wanted the pants. There wasn't a note
attached to the pants, and I wasn't told by her or anyone else that these partic-
ular pants were important. I kind of stood there in a strange disbelief as she
questioned me over and over as if I had planned this entire scenario out. I began
to feel guilty and then I wondered why. I didn't give her pants away on purpose.
I tried not to think about the stupid pants anymore.

The next time I saw my co-worker she had calmed down considerably, and she
told me that she could replace the pants. The strange thing is, she continued to
talk to me as if our awkward and negative conversation had never occurred. I
guess that was her version of an apology.

No matter how you live your life or what you do or don't do, every now and then
you're going to make someone angry. But you can't worry about it. All you need
to do is make sure that you try to live your life in a positive way.

Friday, August 15, 2014

6 Actions That Will Improve Your Life

1. Talk to someone when you're feeling sad and alone.
    No matter who you are, if you're going through a hard time there is always
    someone who can help you. Find someone to talk to because you shouldn't
    have to go through it alone.

2. Be polite when you encounter a rude person.
    You might be tempted to be rude back, but don't because you're better than

3. Don't pursue someone that doesn't want to be pursued.
    If you're interested in a guy and he doesn't seem interested he probably isn't.
    Wasting your precious time on an uninterested person is pointless.

4. Do what you need to do before you do what you want to do.
    If you have an important phone call to make go ahead and take care of it.
    Also, don't go buy a carton of cigarettes and then go borrow money for food.
    Plus, if you want to go to the salon, but your child needs shoes...chose the

5. Don't watch too many negative TV shows.
    Turn the TV off a little while. You can also consciously decide that you will
    watch some positive programing, so you can learn something you might not
    have known.
6. Give yourself plenty of time to get ready for work, school, etc.
    If you can be 15 minutes late you can be 15 minutes early. There is no excuse
    for being late all the time. 

Friday, August 1, 2014

5 Destructive Decisions

1.  Expecting bad things to happen
     If you expect bad things to happen they will happen. Like when you wake
     up late for work and you say "This is gonna be a bad day." Don't think that
     way, because it's not necessarily true. One bad thing happening at the begin-
     ning of your day does not mean the rest of your day will not go well.

2.  Hanging around unhappy people
     If you're hanging around unhappy people their unhappiness can rub off on
     you. Go find some happy people to spend your time with.

3.  Not leaving any time for yourself
     You have to to leave some time for yourself, because if you don't you'll
      feel the consequences. Doing everything you have to do, and not doing
      anything you want to do, will make you feel unhappy and empty inside.

4.  Drinking energy drinks as a substitute for eating
     Some people believe if they drink energy drinks all day, they can get away
     with not eating real food. Please don't do this to yourself. It's not healthy
     and you'll end up feeling like crap.

5.  Drinking energy drinks as a substitute for sleeping
     Your body knows the difference between an energy drink and real sleep.
     No one can last very long on this routine. If you don't get enough sleep you'll
     be forgetful, cranky, and unhealthy.

Monday, June 23, 2014

Pros and Cons List

I think the first issue I wrote a pros and cons list for was when I couldn't decide if
I should break up with my boyfriend. When I wrote the pros and cons list the an-
swer was simple. The cons list was longer so there was no doubt...I had to break
up with him. A pros and cons list can be used for almost any situation that you're 
undecided about.

Some situations you can use a pros and cons list for:
  • Should I switch jobs?
  • Should I get a pet?
  • Should I move?
  • Should I get a tattoo?
  • Should I go to college?
  • Should I get married?
  • Should I color my hair?

Friday, June 13, 2014

If It's Wrong Don't Do It

You know that feeling when you let someone talk you into something you know is
wrong, but you do it anyway? The next time you get that feeling, decide that you
won't let someone hurt you anymore by encouraging you to make a bad decision.
Don't ever believe you have to, or you should put up with a person who doesn't
respect you.

When someone is trying to talk you into something that is wrong and you do it any-
way, or you keep hanging around somebody who is bringing you down instead of
lifting you up, you're telling the other person that... "I will let you hurt me as
long as you want to." This type of person will continue to hurt you if you keep
associating with him/her.

There is no reason to put up with a person who doesn't respect you. Find a way
to stay away from someone like this. Find a positive person or even a group of
people to affiliate with. Don't ever feel like there isn't any hope. There is always
someone out there willing to help you, but you have to let someone know that you
need help.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Self-Esteem Poem

Secure in yourself and your abilities
Every day is seen as an opportunity
Leading yourself and others in the right direction
Filling your life with positive people

Engaging in actions that lift you up
Staying away from activities that bring you down
Tear down your walls of fear
Even if you're worried have a smile on your face
Even if you're angry be nice to others
Make today a positive day

Thursday, April 17, 2014

What Are You?

I know that "What are you?" is sort of an inappropriate question, but a lot of you
hear it. Although this question probably offends you ( I understand why), the next
time you hear "What are you?" try not to be offended and take it as a compliment.

You see, people are so used to just looking at someone and saying to themselves:
She's black. He's white. She's Hispanic. But when you don't seem to fit into any
category, peoples' curiosity simply gets the best of them, and that's when you hear
"What are you?" As rude as it sounds, these curious people are basically saying
you look different. This is a compliment in disguise. There are so many things in
this world that look different and beautiful at the same time. That's what you are...
so that makes you beautifully different.

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Finding Your Joy

If you're having a hard time finding joy in your life you're not alone. I had all of the
joy zapped right out of me when my oldest son died of pneumonia a little over seven
years ago. I couldn't think of anything but losing him. Every day all I could do was cry
and I only did stuff that I had to do like going to work and grocery shopping. There
was nothing that I wanted to do.

Five years after he died I began to remember the joy that writing gave me, so I made
the decision to start this blog. My hope was that maybe by helping other people I
could somehow help myself too. So far it has helped. I can now focus on what brings
me joy instead of what brings me sadness. Other than writing I also like to read a lot
(which I used to never do), draw, and take pictures.

No matter what you're going through you've got to find some joy in something. You
have to find something positive to focus on, because if you don't you will have a very
hard time finding any joy at all.