Keeping a Secret

A few days ago I found something out that was
disturbing and I couldn't decide if I wanted to tell
or not. I knew that this certain person needed to
know the secret; keeping something this important
from her would've been wrong.


I only kept the secret for a couple days and during that time my entire body was
stressed. I hardly had an appetite and I felt extremely guilty. Even though it was
awkward, after I told her the secret she thanked me for telling her, so I knew I'd
done the right thing.

Before you decide if you want to divulge a secret
weigh the pros and cons and ask yourself...

Could keeping your secret hurt someone more than telling it?
                                        OR
Will telling your secret hurt someone more than keeping it?

  

Love Rejection

If someone no longer wants to be with you, be glad
that you know. Now, you can find someone to love
you who deserves your love. Even though at this
moment your heart and spirit may be broken, you'll
fall in and out of love many times, and learn valuable
lessons from each relationship. It's OK to cry and
feel sorry for yourself for a little while, but you have
to keep going. You need to do activities that will
take your mind off of your broken heart.


Activities That Can Help Soothe a Love Rejection

• Eat chocolate
• Call a friend
• Go see a friend
• Draw
• Write
• Watch a comedy
• Help someone in need
• Go out dancing
• Get a pet
• Go shopping (with cash only)
• Take a walk on a sunny day
• Read a book you wouldn't normally read
• Start an indoor or outdoor garden
• Have a picnic in the park with a friend
• Drink a cup of hot tea 

Cell Phone Addiction

One day I was talking to a co-worker in the break
room, and she said she finds it awkward to talk to
people on the phone. She told me she'd rather text.
I said, "Are you serious?"

It's so sad that so many people have become comfort-
able with not having real conversations. It's hard to
learn good communication skills if you're always staring
down at your cell phone,playing a silly game,or texting words that aren't actual words.
                                                           
I'm not a cell phone hater, but I hate what cell phones have done to some people. I
see babies playing and sucking on cell phones. Parents...your baby or toddler does
not need a cell phone! Your child needs a parent to communicate with while you
are both out and about. Your child should be looking around at his or her environ-
ment, not playing with your dirty cell phone.

If you have a cell phone addiction try putting it up for a little while and:

• Have a face to face conversation with someone.
• Look someone in the eye and say 'Hi.'
• Talk to your child while you are both out and about.

Don't Let Criticism Crush You

Criticism can sometimes be hard to handle. I remember
being humiliated by my 5th grade teacher. I was wearing
hot pink lipstick and I thought I was looking good. My
teacher, Ms. Rowady, yelled at me during class and said
none of us were going to lunch until I wiped off my lipstick.
I didn't wear lipstick for about five years after that.



All criticism isn't bad though. Some criticism is meant to help you. When your 
teacher tells you to fix your misspellings, this is meant to help you. If your boss
tells you to fix something that you didn't do properly. When your mom tells you
that you look a little heavy because she's worried about your health. These kinds
of constructive criticisms may bother you a little, but sometimes you need to hear
hurtful advice from a caring person.

Criticism that is meant to upset you should be ignored. Someone that criticizes  
for meanness usually doesn't like themself. Don't let someone's self-hate rub off
on you. Don't let criticism crush you.
 

  

Secret Relationship

I remember liking a white boy and he liked me too, but he said
we could 'go together' if I didn't tell anyone. I was very hurt. It
made no sense to me to be his girlfriend in secret. He didn't
want anyone to know he had a black girlfriend. After that day,
I decided I couldn't be with anyone who was ashamed of me.

You never know where a secret relationship may lead you. I
know a man who thought he had a secret relationship. He met
a girl and he didn't find her attractive, but he thought he'd use
her for sex. A few weeks later he had a baby on the way.


If someone you are dating wants to keep your relationship a secret, that's not a
good sign. He may be embarrassed to be seen with you, or he may have some-
thing to hide. The person you have a relationship with should be excited and
proud to be seen with you. A secret relationship will probably hurt you, because
he may never tell anyone about you, or he may be planning to drop you like a
hot potato.